Asking for help
Are you a martyr or a mother? Be honest! I think many of us attached types find ourselves falling into the martyr trap. It’s so easy to do. You just want the best for your children and since they were given to you, only you can do what’s best for them.
I think sometimes we get so caught up in the ideals of attachment parenting that we try to uphold each and every one to the detriment of our own health and sanity. Okay, so I’m speaking for myself, but I know I’m not alone. When I learned to relax and stopped attempting to do everything, I became a better parent. My attachment to my children became more natural and less about what rules I must follow to be an attached mother.
Relax and live in the moment with your children. Take a break when you can. Don’t take on too many outside activities if your child needs you more at the time. Don’t feel guilty if you need to leave your child with a trusted care-taker while you do something for yourself.
Take care of you so that you can take better care of your children!
On the flip side, don’t let others convince you that you need to leave your child if you are not feeling burned out. You know if you need time away. In the same way that you should not feel guilty for taking time when you need, you also shouldn’t feel guilty if others suggest that your child needs the socialization of a little day care or to spend more time with grandmother. You know if your child needs those things or not.
Listen to yourself and your body. Cutting yourself some slack will mean that your children have a happier mother. A happier mother translates into a more healthily attached mother.
And before I go. . .here’s a cute post.
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