Compassionate Parenting
I’ve noticed some rough spots in my parenting lately, getting frustrated and annoyed far easier than I should. I thought it was the perfect time to pick up a book that I read when my oldest was still a tiny baby, one that definitely helped guide how I wanted to parent. The book is Above All, Be Kind: Raising a Humane Child in Challenging Times by Zoe Weil.
One of the beliefs I see spoken often in Attachment Parenting circles is that if we raise our children with respect and compassion they will learn to be respectful and compassionate. The opposite is often seen, raise a child with violence and they become violent is one example. So using the qualities we want them to hold is a great stepping stone towards them having those qualities themselves.
There is a story in the book that Weil shares about a boy with some physical and mental disabilities. The boy loved basebal, and though his father would play in the yard with him, he wanted to play with the other kids on a real team. His father always held him back, afraid of how the other children might treat him. Finally one day he gives in and takes his son to the ball field. Rather than the teasing and torture he was afraid of the boys on both teams cheered the boy on, helped him to hit a home run, and applauded him around the bases.
Some people might roll their eyes at a story like this, knowing full well how cruel and vicious some children can be. Anyone who has survived Junior High can often attest to it. But there are still moments of compassion left in the world. Look at this news story of a girl who, having finally hit her first home run, blew out her knee and could not run the bases. The opposing team members picked her up and carried her around the bases so that she could have her moment.
I’m not saying any of these children were or were not raised any certain way. Compassion springs forth in the best and worst people people at times. I do hold hope though that by working to share more compassion with my sons, every day, that I am planting seeds for more compassion to trickle out into the world.
parenting, compassion, attachment parenting
May 25th, 2008 at 9:31 pm
This article has been included in the latest edition of MOM’S BLOGGING CARNIVAL.
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